Quick tips to avoid dating disasters

Quick tips to avoid dating disasters (Thinkstock photos/Getty Images)

Getting ready for a date? Experts suggest avoid certain things like talking about ex-partners, excess alcohol intake and physical intimacy.

Femalefirst.co.uk shares quick tips to avoiddating disasters:

1 - Time and place: Decide and go to a place that both of you are familiar with. So that you don't have trouble finding it later. Make sure that the time suits both of you. Also, confirm it in the morning so that you know exactly when you're meeting.

2 - Conversation: There's nothing worse than an awkward silence on a date, so indulge in healthy conversation and talk about various subjects to keep the conversation flowing. If you've met via online, browse his profile to know more about his interests. Avoid conversations about your ex-partners and weather.

3 - Dress comfortably: Look your best. Go for stylish yet comfortable dresses. But don't wear something that could provide a wardrobe malfunction moment. Apart from outfit, wear matching accessories and comfortable shoes. Avoid heels if you are not used to wearing it.

4 - Alcohol intake: Avoid alcohol before going on a date. But if you choose to drink, then make sure you don't take more than two shots as it always works well. There's nothing more unattractive than a woman slurring her words and crying about how her ex-partner, that too when she is out on a date.

5 - No sex: If you ever want to see him again, then don't get intimate with your partner on your first date. If the date went well, then let him know by giving a gentle peck on cheek and wait for him to call you for a second date.

Can oral sex ward off infidelity?

Can oral sex ward off infidelity? (Thinkstock photos/Getty Images)

A new study has suggested that one of the reasons men perform oral sex on their female partners is to minimize the risk of infidelity. 

The study was conducted to find out why men performed oral sex on females, as the act did not lead to reproduction. 

243 adult men in heterosexual relationships were surveyed and the researchers found that cunnilingus is used by men to discourage their female partners from cheating by increasing her relationship satisfaction, a theory which the authors referred to as a mate-retention strategy, the Huffington Post reported. 

The study has been published in the Journal of Evolutionary Psychology.

Tips to save a marriage from falling apart

Tips to save a marriage from falling apart (Thinkstock photos/Getty Images)

When the marriage is on the rocks, couples typically seek advice from friends, family and marriage counselors. 

However, according to relationship expert Mort Fertel, that's precisely the wrong thing to do. 

Fertel said in an e-mail to Huffington Post that much of the advice people get about their marriage problems is wrong, even though it sounds good and made sense. 

What he suggests instead are six unconventional steps that run counter to traditional relationship advice. 

Firstly go it alone. One person's effort can change the momentum of a marriage, and very often, it's that effort that motivates the obstinate spouse to join in the process of saving the relationship. 

Secondly, stop asking yourself the wrong question. The key to succeeding in marriage is not finding the right person, it's learning to love the person you found. 

Know that absence does not make the heart grow fonder. In marriage, particularly in a broken marriage, absence separates people. 

It creates distance, and that's the opposite of what we're trying to achieve, which is closeness. 

Next is don't talk about your problems. Talking about the problems in a marriage doesn't resolve them; it makes them worse. 

It leads to arguments and bad will. Besides, you'll never talk yourself out of a problem that you behaved yourself into. Marriages change because people change. Say little; do much. Speak in the vocabulary of your actions. 

Marriage counseling does not work in most situations. The success rate is dismal. 

Most couples report being worse off after marriage counseling. 

Don't talk to family or friends about your situation. One of the most important values in a marriage is privacy; therefore, it's a mistake to talk about your marriage or your spouse to family or friends. It's a violation of your spouse's privacy and it's wrong.

Casual sex leads to anxiety, depression

Casual sex leads to anxiety, depression (Thinkstock photos/Getty Images)

University students, who engage in casual sex - having intercourse with someone whom you have known for less than a week -suffer from higher levels of general anxiety, social anxietyand depression, researchers have claimed. 

3,900 straight students in the age group of 18 and 25 from 30 different US colleges were questioned about their sex lives and mental well-being. 

The researchers found that people who recently engaged in casual sex seemed to have low levels of self-esteem, happiness and life-satisfaction than others who didn't hook-up with a relative stranger in last 1 month, the New York Daily News reported. 

Lead author Melina Bersamin of California State University, Sacramento said in a statement that it's premature to say that casual sexual poses no harmful psychological risks for young adults. 

She added that the results study suggested that casual sex was negatively associated with well-being and positively linked to psychological distress. 

Men exaggerate sexual thoughts

Men exaggerate sexual thoughts (Thinkstock photos/Getty Images)

Men, who are believed to think about sex every seven seconds, are much less consumed by it than previously thought, a new study has revealed. 

The research, conducted by Duke University in the US, has found that both men and womenoverestimate how much time they ruminate about sex, as well as how often they have it, theNew York Daily News reported. 

It was found that men tend to this more, presumably in an attempt to live up to gender stereotypes. 

The researchers surveyed 202 men and women on sexual health topics, like interest in sex, level of activity, discomfort or dysfunction, and satisfaction. 

During the final survey, subjects rated their sexual interest as they recalled it as 0.7 higher than their daily reports, with men inflating this a bit more than women. 

The research also suggested that both men and women in a good mood tended to over-report how much sex they'd been having, and rated it as better than it actually was. 

However, those in bad moods tended to downplay their sexual frequency and satisfaction. 

The study was published online in Journal of Sexual Medicine.

Health benefits of happy marriage revealed

Health benefits of happy marriage revealed (Thinkstock photos/Getty Images)

People, who are in happy marriages, don't fall sick often and enjoy more good health, a new research has suggested. 

In a 20-year longitudinal study tracking healthand marriage quality, Brigham Young University family life researcher Rick Millerfound that as the quality of marriage holds up over the years, physical health holds up too. 

He said that there is proof from previous research that marital conflict leads to poor health and his study showed that happy marriages have a preventative component that keeps people in good health over the years. 

The study shows positive marriage relationships sustain health over the long run. 

The study used data from a nationally representative sample of 1,681 married individuals followed over the course of two decades - the longest study on marital quality and health to date. 

Miller and colleagues measured marital quality in two ways: First, in terms of happiness and satisfaction, and, second, in terms of marital problems (Do you argue about money? Do you fight about in-laws?). Respondents then rated their health on a 1 (excellent) to 4 (poor) scale. 

The results showed those with higher marital conflict were more likely to report poor health. 

Miller said that the implication is that marital conflict is a risk factor for poor health and couples that fight or argue frequently should get professional help to reduce their conflict, as it affects their health. 

Miller added that when spouses have a bad day, in a happy marriage, they are more likely to support each other and empathize with each other and that support reduces stress and helps buffer against a decline in health. 

Everything you wanted to know about men

Everything you wanted to know about men (Thinkstock photos/Getty Images)

We give you a small ready reckoner on how men behave in relationships... 

Guys tend to get serious with their relationship and become too possessive. 

It's not easy for a guy to let go of his girlfriend after they broke up especially when they've been together for 3 years or more. 

A guy has to experience rejection, because if he's too-good-never-been-busted, never been in loveand hurt, he won't be matured and grow up. 

When an unlikable circumstance comes, guys blame themselves a lot more than girls do. 

Guys have strong passion to change. 

Guys are tigers in their peer groups but become tamed pussycats with their girlfriends. 

When a guy pretends to be calm, check if he's sweating. You'll see that he is nervous. 

When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he's just saying, "Please come and listen to me" 

When a guy loves you, bring out the best in him. 

If a guy starts to talk seriously, listen. 

If a guy has been kept shut or silent, say something. (He generally has a lot of frustration in mind then) 

Guys believe that there's no such thing as love at first sight, but court girls anyway and then realize at the end that he is wrong. 

Guys like femininity not feebleness. 

A guy may instantly know if the girl likes him but can never be sure unless the girl tells him. (So girls you should think of making the first move) 

A guy would waste his time over video games and basketball, the way a girl would do over her romance novels and make-ups. 

Guys love girls who can cook. 

Guys like girls who are like their moms. No kidding! 

A guy's friend knows everything about him.

Why a family should eat together at home

Why a family should eat together at home (Thinkstock photos/Getty Images)

Since we all lead such fast-paced, hectic lives, most of us don't get to spend quality time with our family, especially when it comes to eating leisurely meals.

With the decline of the traditional family dinner concept, the stress levels have also increased. But not many realise that eating a meal with your family can be a great stress reliever. After all, a meal at the dinner table will not only give you time to reconnect with your family members but also help you relax.

If you eat outside with your family in a restaurant, you can't control the portions of your meal! Homemade food allows you to eat portions as per your appetite, which means that you won't be consuming unnecessary calories or wasting food. Hence eating a meal at home together is not only cost-effective but alsohealthy.

Having meals together is also a great way to get the entire family involved together. While the elders in the family can cook, the children can help set up the table with plates, crockery, table mats, etc. What's more, for a more enhanced family experience, on Sundays, you can come up with competitions like 'Who can cook the tastiest dish'. This way, you won't just have fun cooking a meal, but will also spend some fun-filled, precious moments with your entire family.

New relationship advice for a perfect start

New relationship advice for a perfect start

Have you found yourself in a new relationshipin this month of love? Setting some ground rules with your flame will smoothen the road ahead for you both

The first few weeks of a new relationship are the trickiest. While everything seems hunky dory at first, a few unintentional words and actions can lead to trouble in paradise. Keep in mind these basics of etiquette for new romances, and you'll be fine.

Restrain PDA

You can't keep your hands off each other right now, but how much PDA (public display of affection) is too much? If your beau is comfortable with it, hand-holding and looking into each other's eyes are generally accepted in most public places. French kissing, groping and fondling are best attempted briefly, and when no one in the vicinity is staring.

Limit the texting 

No matter how urgent you think it is, don't convey emotional messages over SMS. Use texting for short, factual communication like informing your date that you are stuck in traffic. Don't share every detail of your day gone by calling or texting; you'll be considered a bore by even the most polite listener. You don't really need to know every little piece of information about each other. And drunk dialing is a strict no-no... always!

Don't meet too often

We understand how you want to spend every second of every day with your new love. It may feel great for the first week or so, but eventually your other commitments may pile up and one of you may end up getting annoyed with the other for taking too much time.

Don't be clingy

In the modern dating world, giving each other space is an essential requirement to a great relationship. Right now, you're only a small part of each other's lives. So don't give yourself more importance than you deserve.

Converse!

The passion of a new romance leaves the lovers with little time for deep, intimate conversation. So, try to sneak in a long conversation whenever you're not busy feeling each other up. Find out each other's likes, dislikes, interests in music, movies and books, for instance. Such conversations are spot-on predictors of romantic compatibility.

Keep friends at bay

It's understandable to want to show off your sweetheart to your closest friends. But in the initial phase, refrain from inviting friends when your new beau is with you. It will overwhelm the person who might be scared that things are moving too fast.

Adjust to habits

Accept each other's habits. Instead of trying to change the person to fit your standards of what a potential mate should be like, learn to adjust to their (sometimes annoying) habits. You risk losing him forever if you put restrictions on the way he lives his life at the very beginning.

Gifts can wait

If you want to express your love, keep the gifts small. Despite the fact that your sweetheart is always on your mind these days, don't go overboard with gifts. Save the spending sprees for later when the relationship has matured.

Things to do when you are alone at home

Things to do when you are alone at home (Thinkstock photos/Getty Images)

From reading your favourite novel or watchingmovies — there's plenty you can do when you are home alone 

Prepare for the day
When you know that you will be staying all by yourself in the house today, list down the things that you would like to do. It could be anything from going shopping, watching movies your TV shows, reading books or simply sleeping.

Make yourself comfortable 
This is especially for the ones who would love to laze back and watch movies to listen to songs. Have some pillows tucked by your side and keep some eatables near you, so that you feel relaxed and happy.

Listen to some good music 
There's nothing that can put you at ease than listening to good songs. Not only will it help you relax but will also make you feel happy and keep you engaged.

Watch your favourite movies 
Pick and plan what movies you would want to watch throughout the day. You could probably call over some friends at home to give youcompany. You can either watch the movies online or maybe hire some DVDs.

Read some books 
Reading happens best when you are alone with nobody to disturb you. You can spend hours reading your favourite novel or comic. Reading not only takes your mind off every day worries but also keeps you engaged for a very long time.

Memorable monsoon wedding stories

Monsoon wedding

The wedding day is an unforgettable day in everyone's life, but getting married in the rains makes it even more memorable. We talk to city folk who have had a monsoon wedding

The giant leap
Though we were expecting heavy rains, as I got married during the monsoon season, it merely drizzled at the time when the baraat started. My husband was coming on a horse that was moving slowly with the baraat. Suddenly the horse stepped on a wire that had got wet due to the rains and was carrying little a bit of electric current. The horse lept and my husband was caught unawares. But then, he gained control of the horse and his balance. It was scary but a funny scene too.-Janhavi Jalan Drolia, businesswoman

In haste
Though it was not raining during the day on my wedding, but as the time of the baraat drew nearer the skies were overcast .The baraatis were in the mood to dance and they danced the way to the venue, but as soon as they were about to reach the gates, the clouds began to rumble. So instead of dancing, all the baraatis rushed inside the venue, some of them even running, it was quite a hilarious sight.-Urmila Jajodia, homemaker

Pool wedding
It rained cats and dogs on my wedding. The entire venue was in knee deep water and we had to pump out the water. A lot of my relatives could not make it due to the heavy rains, some of them even joked ki tumari shaadi mein nau par aana padega. The funny part was the place where the seating arrangement for the bride and groom was done was waterlogged despite all efforts to clean up the place. So somebody suggested we put flowers in the water so that it had a lake-like feel to it. We did that and both of us visualised sitting in a beautiful lake rather than in rain water.-Ashwini Srivastava, home maker

Starry wedding
It was the typical moonsoon season at the time of my wedding. Because of the rains, whenever I ventured out for the pooja and other ceremonies, an umbrella was held by somebody so that my dress would not get spoiled. I felt like a queen! Moreover, due to the monsoons, my husband was suffering from conjunctivitis because of which he was wearing stylish sunglasses even at night. People joked, 'Arre yeh toh film star ki tarah aaye hain apni shaadi mein!'-Manju Jhanwar, businesswoman

Fly Fly go away
Monsoons may be a beautiful season but it has so many problems to it. As mine was a July wedding, so rains were expected. Though it did not rain at the time of the wedding, because of the monsoon season we really had to fight the menace of flies, which are rampant during this season. While sitting in the mandap, both of us were constantly shooing away the flies and even the panditji had to do it. It created quite a funny picture and we still remember this with a laugh after all these years. -Shalini Gupta, home maker

Are you going through a divorce?

Are you going through a divorce? (Thinkstock photos/Getty Images)

It's not easy to deal with a broken marriage. But the only way to lessen the pain is by moving on. Here's how to deal with the stress that comes with separation.

Divorce brings along with it many negative emotions — anger, hurt, pain, worry and depression. These emotions cause stress and thereby interfere with your day-to-day life. Thus, the only solution is to move on.

Says relationship expert Seema Hingorrany, "Handling divorce stress is not easy. It is best to have a calm mind during such trying times and harbour no grudges against your ex. Also, ask for support from yourfriends and family; it will help you find peace and also deal with the situation easily. Also remember to never get yourself involved in mud slinging with your ex. This will add further trouble in your separation."

Pay attention to your emotional needs

You must never overlook your emotions. Talk to a therapist, friends or family when you are upset so that you are able to overcome and move on easily. Talk therapy goes a long way in ensuring that you feel overwhelmed emotionally.

Stay fit

Staying active with regular exercise and a proper diet is extremely crucial. Nothing helps our emotions bounce back like physical activity does. It also helps in relieving stress, anger and anxiety.

Don't delve over the impossible too much

Thinking or brooding over something that won't yield in anything positive is useless; it will only drain you emotionally and physically. If you face an uncomfortable situation, learn to let go. Take some time out to get over unpleasant situations and bounce back to life.

Don't make hasty decisions

While going through a tough phase, you are bound to feel agitated and hurt, but when you need to make decisions at this time, do not hurry. Instead take your time to think over issues rather than deciding rapidly.

Change any expectations you have

Remember that no one has control over somebody else's actions or feelings. Thus, when you've just had a divorce, don't try to analyse or think about what your ex is feelings or what actions they'll take. Let go of what you feel the outcome should be and instead learn to accept whatever is in store for you.

Don't hide your feelings

The worst that you can probably do to yourself during this time is bottling up your feelings. Instead of keeping quiet about what you are going through, pen it down or talk to somebody about it. Venting out what you have in mind will ease your troubles and will also make you feel better about yourself in the long run.

Do things that will keep you emotionally and physically happy

There are many things that one can do to keep engaged and feel positive during these times. You can read a good book, get plenty of rest, go for a spa, develop a new hobby or rather surround yourself with good and positive people that will give you a feeling of being wanted and also boost your self esteem.

7 Women that men should avoid...

Women that men should avoid...

While there are enough reasons and pointers on the kinds of men that women should avoid, here's a look at the kind of women that men should be wary of.

The Big Boss: While she is sweet and well - mannered initially, you soon realises that she's only about bossing him around. Even if you talk to your friends, you have to give a whole background and history about how you know the person he was talking to. You are also given tips on how to lead your life, maintain yourrelationships and how ambitious you should be.

The 'Keep on Guessing' type: This girl is always playing hard to get. Even if she says 'yes', you are always left waiting for her to make a plan to meet. She will always keep you guessing about whether she likes you or not. As a result, you are forever insecure that someday, she might just end up with someone else.

'I want you to be like me' type: This one is forever imposing her tastes in food, movies, music and everything else on you. If you do not agree to even a single idea, she throws a tantrum and makes you feel that you have committed a big crime. Steer away from her.

Miss Jealous forever type: She is always insecure that you will leave her. She does not even like you talking with your female colleagues. She is always guarded and is never at peace in the relationship.

'I live for you and I have nothing else to do': This one is totally dependent on you and her happiness and survival depends on you. She can't think of a life without you and of course you will love the affection initially, later it will become suffocating and you will want to give up. She will keep messaging you and ask you for updates every minute and if you don't tell her 'I love you' often in a day she will feel the world is ending for her.

My parents will have a say in everything: The girl is always dependent on her parents for every decision in her life. She will have them solve all financial and personal decisions in her life.

People are happier than us: This woman is constantly comparing her life with others. She is not happy because her friends are richer, happier, and successful than her and she is burning inside because she can't have a life like them.

Love’s the write choice

Love's the write choice

'Love letters straight from your heart Keep us so near while apart I'm not alone in the night When I can have all the love you write' (Elvis Presley's song Love Letters).

Tom Cruises' letter to ex-wife Katie Holmesmight have revealed an emotional side of the Hollywood superstar that most were unaware of, but he's not the only celeb to have poured out his feelings in a letter that came to public knowledge. H-Town's rich and beautiful brigade have been known to have vented their angst and joys in letters in the past. Here's a look at some other Hollywood celeb letter-writers...

Michael Jackson to Lisa Marie Presley

In an intensely personal letter, the King of Pop (which was revealed recently) wrote to his exwife Lisa Marie Presley about his struggle with drugs and insomnia. The letter, which was going to be auctioned until Lisa Marie intervened at the last minute, spoke of the troubles that Jackson faced in his last few days. MJ signed off the letter telling Lisa how he was "crazy for" her.

Tom Cruise to Katie Holmes

Tom Cruise is the latest to have penned down his feelings for ex-wife Katie Holmes in a letter. The couple separated in June last year after Katie's sudden decision to get a divorce. In what most people say is a surprise step from the actor, he reportedly states in the letter how Katie is the only love of his life and how he really misses her and their seven year old daughter Suri. With this heartfelt letter, the Mission Impossible actor is trying to reconcile theirrelationship with Katie after a year of living apart.

Richard Burton to Elizabeth Taylor

They were known as Hollywood's golden couple. Richard Burton and Elizabeth Taylor fell in love with each other on the sets of Cleopatra in 1963 and married each other for the second time after getting divorced. The celebrity couple made headlines for their undying romance once more when Taylor received a love letter from Burton just three days before his sudden death in 1984. While the actress was buried with the letter when she died in 2011, she reportedly read a part of the letter to her biographers where she said that Burton had written — 'Home was where Elizabeth was... and he wanted to come home'.

Kristen Stewart to Robert Pattinson

Kristen Stewart also wrote to her ex-beau Robert Pattinson in a bid to rekindle their turbulent relationship. The Twilight Saga stars were in an on-and-off relationship after Kris cheated on R-Patz with director Rupert Sanders. But K-Stew grabbed her last chance to get back with him and wrote a long, emotional letter expressing her feelings when he moved to Australia. She wrote in the letter how she knew she'd made a "terrible mistake" and how she wanted them to be "together again". Her letter seems to have had no effect on Pattinson as the couple headed for splitsville and the Twilight heartthrob's dating Elvis Preseley's granddaughter Riley Keough.

Brad Pitt to Angelina Jolie

Brad Pitt, whose romance with Angelina Jolie has withstood the demands of stardom and shone through, proved his undying love to his beloved by reading an extremely emotional letter just before Angelina was about to undergo surgery for double mastectomy. In the five-page letter, which Pitt wrote through a sleepless night amid teary breakdowns, he described what Angelina did as "absolutely heroic", confessed to admiring her "strength and honesty" and said he'd love to "get married" to her "as soon as possible."

Mick Jagger to Marsha Hunt

Rolling Stones' Mick Jagger wrote a series of letters to his girlfriend and model Marsha Hunt in the summer of 1969. The 10 letters were auctioned in December 2012 by a reportedly broke Hunt and fetched a whopping amount — $300,000 at a Sotheby auction. The letters, which showed a poetic as well as passionate side of the musician, are also believed to be the inspiration behind the 1971 hit song Brown Sugar. The letters revealed a passionate side of Jagger that his fans had not been privy to. In one letter he wrote, "If I sailed with you around the world, all my sails would be unfurled."

Signs he is just using you

Signs he is just using you (Thinkstock photos/Getty Images)

Often most of us fail to understand whether we're being used in the relationship. Things fall apart when the realisation seeks in late. Here are some ways for you to analyse whether you're being used or not

You pay every time you go out 
Even though he might be well off, but if you often find yourself paying every time the two of you are out on a date, it's time you got the hint that he is just using you. While it's okay to split the bill between the two of you, but make sure you do not make a habit of pulling out your wallet every time you are out with him.

He is only available when he needs you 
If he speaks to you or meets you every time he requires something, you should get the hint. Sometimes, girls fail to understand this habit ofmen and end up thinking that the guy is asking her for advice.

He is financially dependent on you 
Not only do you pay for your dates, but you also help him pay his bills. This is probably one of the greatest signs you need to watch out for. If he doesn't even bother paying his own bills, it's time for you to walk out.

Signs he is just using you

Signs he is just using you (Thinkstock photos/Getty Images)

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Often most of us fail to understand whether we're being used in the relationship. Things fall apart when the realisation seeks in late. Here are some ways for you to analyse whether you're being used or not

You pay every time you go out 
Even though he might be well off, but if you often find yourself paying every time the two of you are out on a date, it's time you got the hint that he is just using you. While it's okay to split the bill between the two of you, but make sure you do not make a habit of pulling out your wallet every time you are out with him.

He is only available when he needs you 
If he speaks to you or meets you every time he requires something, you should get the hint. Sometimes, girls fail to understand this habit ofmen and end up thinking that the guy is asking her for advice.

He is financially dependent on you 
Not only do you pay for your dates, but you also help him pay his bills. This is probably one of the greatest signs you need to watch out for. If he doesn't even bother paying his own bills, it's time for you to walk out.

You can’t change a man!

You can't change a man! (Thinkstock photos/Getty Images)

Women often complain that they change their identity for a man they love, but the man never changes for them...

Mita had a boyfriend called Manish and as he worked at the hotel coffee shop, he never came back home before 2 am. Mita used to keep happy texting him and also be up till the wee hours of the morning to talk to him but later she realized that while she was sacrificing his sleep for him, he never used to once let go of his schedule and try to speak to her on an earthly hour. Mita complained, "There were so many times that I tried to adjust to his schedule of work but then I had an early day at work and could not meet him later at night as it upset my sleep. Moreover, I also tried changing my work hours, be excited to meet him and please him but when it came to keeping me happy, it was hardly any effort from him."

Like Mita there are many girls who still don't stop complaining on how they can never change their husband or boyfriend whilst they make a 180 degree shift to please their man. A relationship requires effort both ways, but after the initial wooing a guy is generally known to go back to what he is. While every relationship requires compromises, many women feel that they sometimes compromise a tad too much to keep the relationship going. Sanjay Joshi, abusinessman says, "Every relationship has their share of ups and downs. But I do feel that a woman is more capable of making a success of a relationship. If she has decided in her head that she wants to make it happen with a man that she loves, it generally works. Men are polygamous by nature and often at times require their space and so many times in the process tend to take their woman for granted."

Women complain of how they have even given up their careers, changed their dressing style and even gone to the extent of deserting their female friends to make their relationship work but when it came to their boyfriend he changed for sometime but then it was going back to his earlier habits. Sonia, a hairdresser often complained of how her boyfriend never wanted to meet her girl friends and despite getting back with him after breaking up twice, he still continued his old ways.

So while there can be different way, experts suggest that you can never change anyone. One can only adjust and compromise with the kind of person you have fallen in love with. While there can be minor changes you can bring to the relationship, let every person be unique and enjoy being in love.